Dating in 2019 is different because of Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, and probably many more phone apps and websites that I haven’t thought of or used myself. Yep…you read that right. I’ve been on dates in the past from meeting someone online. I’ll save those details for another article.
I was driving earlier today and the title of this article popped into my head. The rest of my drive I couldn’t get it off my mind. Would I ask myself out on a date? It’s a question that can be tough to think about and to process. One reason it’s tough is because we can’t “see ourselves” completely in the way that other people view us. It’s two sides of the same coin; frustrating and also a blessing. So would I ask myself out on a date? I don’t really need to ask myself…I’ll just plan an evening with me, myself, and I to Chick-fil-A and enjoy a nice meal. It won’t disappoint. Ha!
I’m not sure if I would ask Davey out. What I know about Davey is that he has baggage. He’s made a lot of relational mistakes. He’s done things that he can’t change and hurt a lot of people. Has he really had a breakthrough with the root causes of his weaknesses? That scares me about Davey. How can he be successful in another relationship if he’s messed up previous ones?
Sometimes this is how I view myself. I second guess and doubt about the changes that I’ve made in my life and heart. Will I still make mistakes in the future? Absolutely, but hopefully not the same mistakes. It’s one thing to make an honest mistake. It’s another to keep making the same bonehead mistakes over and over again.
“If you don’t leave your past in your past, it will ruin your future.” -Anonymous
For me, I focus on becoming the person I know I should be. Life has its ups and downs, but I try to have the resilience to keep going day by day. I wake up and think about the blessings I get to live out each day. Knowing that I have a purpose is what keeps me going.
I tell myself these affirmations to get me through each day:
-I am loved
-I have a purpose
-I’m not defined by my mistakes
-I am free
-I lay down my pride
-I am healed
-I will not compare myself to others
Make Today Count,